Helpers and Visitors

At last night's prenatal class, we discussed the difference between helpers and visitors in those first few weeks post-partum.

Helpers and visitors are both wonderful and we are hoping to have plenty of both, but they are different.

Helpers are there to do non-baby related stuff so that we can put all our energy into getting to know the amazing creature that is Moe. Helpers do things like laundry, or dishes. They bring food. They swiffer. They might even clean the bathroom. Or shovel the driveway. They keep a slight distance from us as we bond with our son.

Visitors are focused on Moe. They are there to meet this new person, hold him and celebrate his arrival.

We've determined that in those first two weeks after we get home from the hospital, we will need helpers. I'm planning on pretty much staying upstairs for that first week. If Moe arrives on the early side, Bundy may be working during that week. I've asked my mom to plan on taking some vacation right after Moe arrives, but she can't do it all. So we'd love some helpers.

We'd also love visitors. They are a wonderful part of this rite of passage. But I think we'll wait to welcome visitors until we get through those first two weeks. We may change our minds - things may go really well and we may throw open the doors early. But for now, the plan is to have visitors after those first two weeks are over.

If you are interested in being a helper, shoot me an email and we'll gratefully add you to the list. Even if people could come by for one hour during one evening in that first week, it would be appreciated.

And if you are not interested in being a helper, but would like to be a visitor, that is just fine, too. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be a helper! Goodness knows, we all have our own dishes to do. :) So if you would like to be a visitor, we will welcome you with open arms... after those first two weeks are done. :)