The story of six years of infertility, 2 antral follicles, way too many rounds of Clomid, two failed IUIs, a ridiculous number of needles, eight years of mortgage payments brought back to square one, one last chance IVF procedure with donor eggs, and one amazing little boy.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Dear Moe (13 Weeks)
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Dear Moe (12 Weeks)
Hello, sweetheart! You found your fist this week! And as much as you enjoy munching it, sometimes it betrays you. If you are tired you lose your coordination and your fist bops you in the face. It is both funny and tragic.
You've officially doubled your birth weight, tipping the scales at 12 lbs, 6 oz. You are getting deliciously plump - whenever I bathe you I find new crevices to clean.
You are so even tempered and chill, it's amazing. We brought you with us to a fantastic dinner out last night, and you sat happily in your car seat until dessert, when we popped you out and passed you around. You didn't fuss at all.
We've started a new routine. We do things in the morning, nap together in the afternoon, and then in the evening I can sometimes go and do something on my own. Also, Grandma is insisting that Daddy and I go out alone together at least once a week, and we're going to do that. We went to a movie last week, and it was strange to be without you, but nice to see each other. We came back eager to see you, though!
When we go to the doctor on Tuesday, we're going to talk to her about your head and neck, and about your skin. You still have patches of eczema on your face, neck, arms, shoulders and back. And you have a bit of a rash on your tummy. I've switched to Aveeno soap, and everything you wear gets washed in the sensitive skin detergent and without fabric softener. We've up your tummy time considerably, but you still favour that one side of your head. I tried propping your shoulder up with a blankie roll in your crib, you can weasel away from it. So now you sleep in your cot in your crib. You can't slink away from the blankie roll in your cot!
You have a delightful smile. You love pony rides on my knee, which is also an effective way to burp you. You collect lint in your toes, which are practically prehensile. You still have your awesome little faux-hawk (or, if you prefer... moe-hawk). When you are awake and alert, you are AWAKE and ALERT. Your cheeks are super kissable. You enjoy being in the Baby Bjorn carrier, and when you're in there, you look up at me with your adorable eyes. Your ears wiggle when you nurse, and your eyebrows waggle when you're engaged. You are made of awesome, and we can't imagine life without you.
Keep being such a wonderful, sweet little guy. We love you so much, there are no words.
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Dear Moe (11 Weeks)
Eleven weeks old, sweetheart! Where is the time going? You have had a great week, little man.
First, I think we've solved the burping issue... or at least, it's getting easier. Grandma suggested that maybe you're a relaxed burper, which means that patting you on the back does nothing. Instead, I just get you to relax and I move your torso around. Sure enough, you burp! You may not be burping as efficiently as you were when we did the back patting, but you are burping more consistently, and that's a good thing, sir. Indeed it is.
You do still get gas pains occasionally, and when you do at night I pop you into your little cot and put you in my bed so I can keep a hand on your belly and replace your soother as quickly as possible. Usually, the hand on the belly helps you work through the gas and once you've done that you go back to your crib without an issue.
(Side note. When we do fold you forward to burp you and pat you on the back, you are so cute. You look just like a little hotei - I want to get you a little bag to carry over your shoulder.)
We get to see you sit up more often now - Aunt Laurie and Uncle Scott got you a lovely red bumbo chair. I've put you in it every day, and for the most part you like it very much. I'm looking forward to when you can hold your own head up and sit in it and play with your toys on the play tray.
So I noticed that you really, really favour one side of your head. You constantly look to the right when you're lying down. As a result, your head is getting a little flat on that side. In an effort to strengthen your neck muscles and fix your little melon, I've been doing stuff to correct it and make you look to the left. I roll a little blanket and pop it under your shoulder and beside your head when you lie down, and I prop you with a blanket roll when you sit in your bouncy chair or the car seat. Hopefully this will help and you'll get used to looking to both sides. (Also, you pin your right ear something fierce.)
Another thing we're doing to get your neck muscles stronger is tummy time, and a lot of it. Until now, we've only really been doing it once a day. Now I aim for three or four times a day if we can swing it. You're getting really good at it, too - it's gratifying to see you getting stronger and lifting your head so well.
(Another side note. I think you have your Daddy's feet, darling. They are wide and thick and adorable. When you start to outgrow a sleeper, it's the feet that get tight first.)
This week we went swimming for the first time! It was wonderful - you really enjoyed it. You smiled and looked generally happy and pleased. We'll go again next week for sure, and now that I've been to the pool and seen how it all works, I'm confident I can take you there on my own. Your Aunt JFlo was nice enough to come with us to help out that first time. I didn't have you in there longer than a couple of minutes - I wanted your first swimming experience to be a good one - but I think we can get away with ten minutes next time. And you look so freaking cute in your little swim diaper.
You met a very special person for the first time this week. Your Aunt Natalie came home from Korea and we surprised her at the airport. She seemed quite taken with you, and you with her. :)
You weighed in at 12 lbs and 1/2 oz this week. A few more ounces and you'll have doubled your birth weight! But I think we may skip the well baby clinic this week, if I don't have any questions to ask the nurses. I'd like to take you to Stars and Strollers and watch a movie with you. We'll see how it goes.
I love the way you look at me, especially when I'm feeding you. You have incredibly intelligent and beautiful eyes. And when those eyes cry real tears, it breaks my heart. I love you so much, little Moe. When you are awake and smiling, it is the best part of my day. And tomorrow when I celebrate my very first Mother's Day - a day I used to dread - I want you to know how much happiness you bring me. I love being your Mommy and I couldn't ask for a more wonderful baby. You're simply a fantastic little creature and you make our lives so bright.
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Dear Moe (10 Weeks)
Well, darling, you're definitely in the middle of a growth spurt. You like to feed every two hours during the day, if you can get away with it, and you spent one day last week sleeping like a log. The Muppet suit is getting too small (I went and bought you a couple more - a 6 to 9 month and a 12 month - since we like it so much) and we had to cull a bunch of your littlest onesies.
You have a little girlfriend at the Well Baby Clinic, where you tipped the scales at 11 lbs, 8.5 oz this week. Emily is a few months older than you, and this week you lay side by side with your hands touching. It was very cute. Emily's Mom has been really helpful to me - she convinced me that wearing my engagement ring wasn't a danger to you, suggested the soother brand that I'm comfortable with, and told me where to find sunglasses with the strap on the back so they don't fall off. I bought some at Walmart today - we'll see what you think of them.
The Baby Bjorn is fitting you much better now that you're a bit bigger, and we took a nice long walk with Uncle Dan with you in it. It worked quite well, and my back wasn't sore at all. I've had to adjust your car seat and stroller straps to make room for the bigger version of you. It's wonderful to see you grow, but it's hard to believe you aren't the tiny little guy we first met.
On Monday, I signed up for a free membership with the Ontario Early Years Centre and we attended our first playgroup. You were one of the youngest babies there (we met a little girl who was born four hours later than you!) but we still did circle time, and you managed quite well. I'll see about going back there, especially once we're done with the Well Baby Clinic, which goes to three months.
I'd like to start taking you to Stars and Strollers. There's one on Wednesdays, so we're hoping Daddy can start taking that day off instead of Tuesday and we can go as a family. Daddy and I haven't been to a movie in a long time! Maybe next week.
On Thursday, your Aunt Natalie comes home from Korea and you'll meet her for the very first time. We're quite excited - we've missed her. I know she'll fall in love with you as soon as she sees you, and that you'll love her very much.
You are typically very patient and sweet, even though you have some trouble getting to sleep during the day. You likely don't nap as much as you should, and that may be due to my insistence that we get out every day, but you're not sleeping too badly at night. I'm hoping that once this growth spurt abates you'll go back to giving us 5 hour stretches every so often.
You're smiling more and more - little contented crooked smiles that tell me that you're generally a happy little lad. That makes me happy - I want so much to take good care of you. I hope you're glad that you are a part of this family - we love you so much and wouldn't trade you for anything in the world. When Daddy comes home from work, he says you make everything better. I feel the same way. We love you oodles, darling. Keep being such a wonderful little guy.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Dear Moe (9 Weeks)
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Dear Moe (4 Weeks / 1 Month)
Hello, sweetheart. It's hard to believe that you are already one month old. It seems like just yesterday we brought you home from the hospital. You're doing really, really well - nursing like a rock star and generally being adorable at every opportunity.
When I brought you to the Well Baby Clinic this week, they would have been very happy to see you gain between 4 and 6 oz. You had gained 13! So you now tip the scales at 7lbs 13oz, and are outgrowing your clothes at an alarming rate. We've put away your polar bear fleecy sleeper and broken out the 3-6 month duckie version. You look longer and rounder and generally delicious.
You generally seem pretty content, except for about an hour after you eat. Due to your stubborn refusal to burp, you end up with some rather painful gas. I'm not sure what more I can do to get you to burp, short of standing you on your head. (I won't do that, don't worry, sweetie.) Occasionally, I can coax a burp out of you, but it doesn't happen very often. And if I don't, sure enough, an hour later, you are root-toot-tooting along. I have found that giving you a soother during those times helps us both get through them.
In an effort to teach you the difference between night and day, I have you sleep upstairs in your bassinet only at night; otherwise, you're downstairs in your little cot. And I only cover you with a blanket and play soft music at night. Hopefully you'll eventually pick up on these cues and learn that at night, you should be down for the long haul. :)
Your eyes are getting brighter and more alert, and you love looking at the lights. You still get the hiccups about once a day. You make the cutest little faces.
We went out on Wednesday and bought you a stroller, and we got what I think is an awesome one. You and Granny and I took it out for a test drive yesterday, and it went very well. We walked to the community centre and back. Today, we might walk to the bank, except it isn't as warm out as it was yesterday, so we'll see.
You had a very nice week with your Tio and Tia and Cousin Isabel visiting next door. You were held and chattered to and generally showered with love. It was great fun to have them meet you. Everyone fell head over heels in love with you.
The quest for a routine is going well. It's still working pretty well to have us nap in the morning and get out and do things in the afternoon. Mind you, you nap through the afternoon, too. :) You're still sleeping most of the time, but I don't worry because you do wake yourself up to feed.
You're getting better and better at holding your head up for short amounts of time. I think next week, we can start doing some tummy time! I hope you'll grow to like that, my darling.
The most exciting news this week, though, is that tomorrow your Daddy starts four weeks at home with us! He's headed to Boston for five days at the end of next week, but then he's all ours for the three weeks after that. We're both really looking forward to his time off - we'll go on all kinds of adventures together! It's going to be a wonderful, very special time.
Sweetheart, I don't think there are words to tell you how awesome you are. You're sweet and cuddly and adorable and wonderful and we are just loving getting to know you. Keep being such a sweetie, and keep soaking up our love. You're simply amazing.
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Dear Moe (3 Weeks)
Wow, you're three weeks old already! You've made some great strides this week, little man. You're now wearing size 1 diapers (graduating from the newborn size), you are nursing like a champ, and for the most part you sleep really well. (You're a bit of a Houdini when it comes to unswaddling yourself, and then you panic and cry because your arms flail involuntarily.)
I brought you to the City of Ottawa Well Baby Clinic on Thursday and you are now 7lbs, which is great. Your face is definitely getting chubbier, too. Your cheeks are ridiculously kissable. You've been strictly on the breast for a few days now - no more bottles for you. You get such bad gas when you drink from a bottle that I think we will all be happier without them for a while yet. I still try and pump once a day, if I can.
Your moments of being alert and awake are increasing, and you are just adorable when you look at us with your sweet little eyes. I've noticed that those eyes are getting better and better at moving together, which is great, too.
We're getting into a semblance of a routine, which is also very good. In the morning, you and I nap together, and then around lunch time at your next nap, I get to take a shower and get a few things done. In the afternoon, we try and do something - whether it's go outside for a walk, have a visit from a friend, got to an appointment, or run an errand. Today we're going to try and go to Canadian Tire to pick up a furnace filter - such is the exciting and cosmopolitan life we lead, little Moe! :)
You are still enjoying your bath, and I'm getting more and more confident about giving them to you. You're due for one today or tomorrow, and I'm not dreading it the way I was that first week. Besides, you smell so good after a bath, and you're all warm and cozy and clean! I just love smelling your head.
Your aunt, uncle and cousin from Toronto are coming to visit this week - it will be really wonderful for them to meet you.
Keep being such a wonderful, sweet and adorable pigeon. We love you so much. I'd tell you to keep growing, but you'll do that anyway, and frankly, you are so lovely and tiny that I wouldn't mind if you stayed this size a while. But you won't, will you? And then we'll love you just as much at the next stage. xoxo